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How To Lead Without Losing Yourself
Ever felt like you’re losing yourself in the hustle of being a leader? You know, those days where it’s like, “Where did I go in all of this?” One day, you’re in charge of handling projects, managing people, and making calls. And the next thing you know, you’re drowning in emails, solving everyone else’s problems, and barely recognizing the person you see in the mirror. It’s like you’re leading everything… except yourself. Take a moment to think about the guy on the dollar bill for a second. George Washington’s often praised for being a great leader, but what people don’t always talk about is how hard he worked to stay…
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Uncomfortable Situations: Something All Leaders Must Get Comfortable With
Have you ever heard that embracing uncomfortable situations is the mark of a true leader? I was once told this a long time before I became a leader. I did not know exactly what it meant then. I assumed it meant having to fire someone, getting scolded for every small mistake in my department, or even having to do the scolding! So what did it mean? All that and more. Leadership is good, but it is also uncomfortable. You are bound to find yourself in situations where you’d rather be the guy who’s not even in the building. But sadly, you will be. But I did not lie in the…
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Being Into The Mysterious Man: Should You Be Worried?
The mysterious man has no business being charming, interesting, and attractive, right? You’ve probably fallen for him at least once or fallen in love with him in a book. So, was he everything you could ever dream of? I know mine wasn’t! As much as mystery is exciting and charming, it can also be frustrating as time passes. Can you imagine trying to date someone who keeps a lot of the details of his life hidden? Because that’s exactly what it’s like dating the mysterious man. It was charming when it was new, but then it just became annoying. So, is there even a point to dating the man who…
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Servant Leadership: What Jesus Teaches Us About Leading at Home and Work
Since recently returning to the school system, I’ve been thinking a lot about leadership lately. Not just leadership in the sense of running a business or leading a project, but the kind of leadership Jesus calls us to in our everyday lives. You know, that quiet, sometimes behind-the-scenes leadership that doesn’t look like the world’s idea of power, but instead looks like humility, service, and love. It’s funny because the more I read Scripture, the more I see that Jesus turned the whole concept of leadership upside down. In our culture, leadership is often about influence, control, and being in the spotlight. But in the kingdom of God, it’s almost…
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Getting Fired: Still A Possibility As A Leader, Or Are You Safe?
When I first became a leader in a workplace, I thought I would never have to worry about getting fired. The money and opportunity were good, but I was happier about job security. My happiness quickly dipped when I had a conversation with my mentor months later. The company was not doing too well, and I had the privilege and burden of knowing. It was beyond our control; the market just wasn’t what it used to be. I feared I would get a significant pay cut, so I went to my mentor for advice on how to bear it when it finally happened. He said, ‘When companies are not doing…
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Understanding The Emotionally Unavailable Man
Nobody ever wants to be in the eyeline of an emotionally unavailable man. Sadly, sometimes you find yourself there without even knowing it. I mean, it’s not like emotionally unavailable men walk around with a sign on their foreheads. And they don’t come out of the gates announcing it. They probably don’t even realize or accept it! So can you really change him? Is the emotionally unavailable man worth the trouble or destined to be alone? Most people who have been down this path would tell you to walk away, even run. Others will tell you that there could be something there, and it’s ‘not so bad.’ So, what is…
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Leaders Should Apologize, Or Does Leadership Mean Never Having To Apologize?
Have you ever heard your boss apologize? Yeah, for the longest time, neither did I. The thought of whether a superior should apologize did not come to mind until I got to a leadership position. And when it did, I had some mixed feelings. Many of the people who led me never apologized for anything. I mean, they could do something as horrible as erasing data on a new project, but the word ‘sorry’ would never cross their minds or mouths! And for some reason, we just accepted it. Society has proven to be totally chill with people in leadership positions, never apologizing for their mistakes, from presidents to CEOs…
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Is There A Right Way To Emotionally Connect With A Man?
First things first, do men even emotionally connect with others? They must, right? There are many people with successful marriages and relationships, which means that the men in those relationships managed to emotionally connect with their partners. However, a lot of women struggle to have that connection with men. And it makes sense because men are not the most forthcoming in opening up and connecting. It goes against all things male code. Still, with time, they can learn to feel safe and open up to emotional connection. And for that to happen, there are a few things worth learning and considering. Emotional intimacy is wonderful, but it is also delicate.…
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How Servant Leaders Can Remain Motivated In Their Roles
People rarely focus on how leaders remain motivated. But it makes sense. Often, it feels that the company needs to focus on those who are not in leadership positions regarding motivation. Leaders have power, a higher salary, and a ‘better’ footing in the company than anyone else. They have all the motivation they need, right? Wrong! First things first, money is not the best motivation. Secondly, leaders need motivation, especially when time has passed. When you first started, you had many goals to motivate you—maybe the leadership position you are in right now, a higher salary, or fewer working hours—all things you could have already achieved as a leader. So,…
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How Leaders Can Inspire Healthy Competition Without Crossing The Line
Healthy competition was not something I thought could exist for the longest time. As someone who sadly went to a school system where missing two marks on a test was punished rather than rewarded, I never liked any form of competition. In school, it literally pinned us against each other. And just when I thought things could not get worse, I got a job! And I learned very quickly that NOBODY at work is your friend. It was horrible! After that, you could not convince me that competition was good. What do you mean it can bring out the best in people? If what I saw was the best, then…
