Is He Dating Someone Else? 9 Sneaky Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore

Is he dating someone else? He is if:

1. He’s Keeping You a Secret

If he avoids posting pics with you, dodges introductions, or gives vague answers about your relationship, he might be seeing someone else. Why? Because he doesn’t want the other person (or people) to find out about you.

Example: You ask to meet his friends, and he says, “They’re busy”—every one. Single. Time. 

So, if he’s acting like you don’t exist, ask yourself: Is he dating someone else and keeping me in the dark?

2. He ALWAYS Carries His Phone With Him

Listen, we all love our phones, but if he acts like it’s glued to his hand, especially around you, something’s up. 

A guy with nothing to hide won’t panic if you grab his phone to change the music. But if he guards it like it’s Fort Knox, flips it face down, or suddenly leaves the room to text, he might be hiding conversations.

Example: He even takes his phone into the shower.

If he’s more protective of his phone than a dragon with its treasure, is he dating someone else? Most likely. 

3. He Suddenly Takes Care of Himself

If his glow-up seems suspiciously timed, is he dating someone else and putting in effort for them? Yup!

Men don’t just wake up one day and decide to upgrade their whole look for no reason. If your guy suddenly hits the gym hard, buys new cologne, or starts dressing sharper out of nowhere, pay attention. 

While self-improvement is great, drastic changes without a clear reason could mean he’s trying to impress someone new.

Example: He used to wear the same hoodie for three days straight, but now he gets haircuts every two weeks and smells like a high-end perfume counter. 

4. He Has Become Insecure

Wait—he’s the one acting insecure now? That’s weird. 

If he’s suddenly questioning you, accusing you of flirting, or acting overly jealous, he might be projecting. Cheaters often get paranoid because they’re the ones being shady, so they assume you are too.

Example: You mention your coworker’s funny text, and he snaps, “Why is he texting you?!” Meanwhile, he’s been distant and secretive. The irony, right? 

So, ask yourself: Is he dating someone else and deflecting his own behavior onto me?

5. He Doesn’t Plan Things With You

If he used to be all about date nights and future plans but now acts like scheduling anything with you is a chore, that’s a bad sign.

Example: You ask about next weekend, and he shrugs, “I’ll let you know.” But then Friday rolls around, and he’s MIA. 

A guy who’s into you wants to make time for you. But if he’s suddenly “too busy” or only hits you up last minute, he might be saving his energy—and his weekends—for someone else.

If he’s acting like planning with you is a hassle, is he dating someone else and keeping his options open? Yes!

6. He Talks About a “Cheating” Friend

This one is very sneaky. If he randomly starts telling you about a buddy who’s cheating, pay close attention. 

Cheaters often test the waters by bringing up infidelity in a “hypothetical” way. They want to see how you’d react—or worse, they’re low-key confessing by hiding behind someone else’s drama.

Example: Out of nowhere, he says, “My coworker got caught cheating, and now his girl left him… crazy, right?” Then he watches your face like it’s some kind of pop quiz. 

If he’s suddenly obsessed with other people’s cheating stories, ask yourself: Is he dating someone else and trying to gauge how I’d handle the truth?

7. He Tries to Stop You From Doing Good Things for Him

This one’s weird but true. If he gets uncomfortable when you’re extra sweet, like cooking for him, buying gifts, or even just being affectionate, he might feel guilty. 

Why? 

Because when you’re treating him well, it highlights how he’s treating you… badly. And if he’s got another girl in the picture, your kindness just makes his guilt worse.

Example: You surprise him with tickets to his favorite game, and instead of being thrilled, he acts awkward and says, “You shouldn’t have.” Not in a sweet way—in a “I don’t deserve this” way. 

If he’s pushing away your love, is he dating someone else and feeling like a fraud? Likely, he is.

8. He Spends a Lot of Money (But Not on You)

If his bank account is suddenly taking hits and you’re not seeing the benefits, that’s suspicious. Maybe he’s buying fancy dinners, gifts, or weekend trips—but you’re definitely not invited. A guy who’s spending big but cutting corners with you? Yeah, he’s probably spending it on someone else.

Example: He claims he’s “broke” when you suggest a nice date, but then you spot a receipt for $$$$ sushi in his car. 

If his money’s disappearing but you’re not the one enjoying it, is he dating someone else and showering her with it instead? Very likely. 

9. He’s Giving You One-Word Responses

When a guy’s into you, he engages. But if he’s suddenly short, distracted, or just plain boring, his attention is probably elsewhere.

If his texts went from paragraphs to “K” and his conversations are drier than toast, he’s either checked out or checked into someone else’s DMs. Either way, not a great sign. 

If he’s talking to you like you’re his dentist’s receptionist, is he dating someone else and saving his energy for her? Yeah, he is. 

So, is he dating someone else? These signs, especially when they happen all together, point to yes. But the best way to find the truth is to ask him. But if you’re not ready, at least you now have some clarity and can take the next best step: prioritising your happiness!