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Men With Trust Issues: Are They Worth Dating?
Are men with trust issues uncommon? Actually, are people with trust issues rare? If you ask me, most people have trust issues. But maybe not to the point of stalking and having passwords for every app on your phone. So, where do trust issues come from? The experiences and influences in our lives have a bigger impact than you would think. Things like past relationships and childhood experiences can cause trauma. Men with trust issues often go through some kind of betrayal or hurt, so they carry that pain into new relationships. Understandably, it makes them afraid of being vulnerable again, so they build walls to protect themselves. Another major…
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Dating the Strong Silent Type: What You Need to Know Before Committing
Tall, dark, and handsome, the strong silent type, and every other three-word phrase to describe the most attractive men you can think about. You’ve had a crush on at least one you can think of, right? It’s understandable. If you are here, you are looking for answers on what it would be like to date that strong silent type you met who seems to be passing the vibes to you. Alternatively, you could be here because you have approached the strong silent type, and it did not go as expected. So you want to know what could have possibly gone wrong. Spoiler: this blog does both. The strong, silent type…
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What 16 Years as a Middle School Teacher Has Taught Me About Today’s Young Men
I’ve been teaching middle school for 16 years now, and I can attest that middle schoolers are a special breed of crazy. On the whole, they’re hormone-riddled, not sure who they are yet, and stuck somewhere in between little kid and teenager. This haziness is reflected in almost every aspect of their personalities. It’s a tough time for many, as they transition from being under their parent’s gaze to a bit more independence (in most cases). These years are full of insecurity. Classmates come down hard on everything from what they eat to how they dress or comb their hair. This ridicule is looming around every corner. You might be…
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Leading With Less: Guide To Keeping The Team Moving With Limited Resources
When you get hired at a company, you rarely expect to have to fight for limited resources. But employment is unpredictable and weird. Scarcity can happen to any department for different reasons and for varying timelines. Maybe the company had to cut back, and now employees must share office space. Or perhaps the purchases are running late, so things like stationery are limited. Perhaps management has yet to hire more people, so the team is overworked and struggling to keep up. Some also have to deal with outdated technology, insufficient training, and even a lack of necessary tools or software. Sadly, team members may not handle scarcity well. As the…
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How Do Servant Leaders Approach Recognition and Rewards?
Whether you are a team leader or a CEO, eventually, you will have to deal with recognition and rewards for your people. So, how do you go about it? I remember when a pizza party was all the reward employees would get from their employers and managers. But right now, companies realize that recognition and rewards should be thoughtful. It came on a little late, but companies now see their employees as people contributing to their vision. And it is important to keep them motivated. And before you ask, salary is not motivation. Think about it from the employee’s perspective: someone is paying you a certain amount of money to…
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Is Teambuilding Really Necessary…and How Do You Do It?
If you’ve worked for a major corporation in the last ten years, you’ve probably been wrangled into participating in some sort of team-building activity or event. (Some of you are rolling your eyes about now.) Admittedly, team-building events can be a bore, but do they serve a purpose? As a boss, community leader, or coach, should you be incorporating these activities in your game plan? Let’s take a look at the concept of team-building, explore the benefits, and find a few options that might work for you. Benefits of Team-Building Activities… As a community leader, teacher, and football coach, I’m frequently looking for innovative ideas to get my people on…
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Struggling To Avoid Micromanaging? Servant Leadership is The Solution
As an employee, I always prided myself in doing things perfectly. I had a system, and it gave me results. Striving for perfection in your work is a good quality when working under someone. But when you are calling the shots, it’s one of the things that will not help when trying to avoid micromanaging. That’s what happened to me. The first time someone put me in charge of other people’s work, I became the ultimate micromanager. It’s not like I wanted to, but it was my first ‘command,’ and I wanted to make a good impression. I wanted my superiors to know that I could lead others to do…
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He Doesn’t Like Your Friends, And That’s Okay
“Do I like your friends?” He repeated the question to me. I did not need an answer after that. I mean, I had my answer when he hesitated. Plus, I could hear the lie building up in his voice. Was I okay with the fact that my partner did not like my friends? No! Should I have been? We broke up before I could figure that out. But it was not because he did not like my friends! Although sometimes that’s what it feels like you should do. I mean, The Spice Girls said it’s important for him to get with them. We can’t argue with The Spice Girls! But…
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Forgiving Yourself: Tips for Men Struggling with Being Sorry
Forgiving yourself; now that’s something I know many people struggle with. If you are anything like me, you have an easier time letting go of what people did to you than forgiving what you think you may have done wrong to yourself. Everyone receives mercy; they made a mistake, and that’s fine. But you’re different. You hold yourself to an impossible standard, beating yourself for whatever you did, focusing solely on that mistake, and questioning why you did it. Sounds familiar? That rabbit hole is tight, so you will get stuck. Men seem to need help coming out of it the most. They tend to get stuck on their mistakes,…
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How I’m Becoming the Spiritual Leader in Our Home (Despite Not Being a Natural Leader)
What does it mean to be the spiritual leader of the household? It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. If you’re a Christian, then you know that biblically men are called to be the spiritual leader of the family, but what does that entail? How do we balance implementing that God-given authority with mutual respect, kindness, and freedom? If we’re honest with ourselves, it’s a big task! Accepting a place of leadership requires a certain amount of vulnerability. Your words, actions, and decisions are on display—scrutinized by the family…and others. It can be a scary role to step into, especially if you aren’t a natural leader. In almost…
