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Forgiving Yourself: Tips for Men Struggling with Being Sorry
Forgiving yourself; now that’s something I know many people struggle with. If you are anything like me, you have an easier time letting go of what people did to you than forgiving what you think you may have done wrong to yourself. Everyone receives mercy; they made a mistake, and that’s fine. But you’re different. You hold yourself to an impossible standard, beating yourself for whatever you did, focusing solely on that mistake, and questioning why you did it. Sounds familiar? That rabbit hole is tight, so you will get stuck. Men seem to need help coming out of it the most. They tend to get stuck on their mistakes,…
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How I’m Becoming the Spiritual Leader in Our Home (Despite Not Being a Natural Leader)
What does it mean to be the spiritual leader of the household? It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. If you’re a Christian, then you know that biblically men are called to be the spiritual leader of the family, but what does that entail? How do we balance implementing that God-given authority with mutual respect, kindness, and freedom? If we’re honest with ourselves, it’s a big task! Accepting a place of leadership requires a certain amount of vulnerability. Your words, actions, and decisions are on display—scrutinized by the family…and others. It can be a scary role to step into, especially if you aren’t a natural leader. In almost…
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Can you Build A Legacy In Servant Leadership?
As a leader, it is only natural to want to build a legacy in your role or other positions of power. Who doesn’t want a great legacy? To be the guy employees still speak fondly about even though they started years after you left the company. So, what kind of leaders build a great legacy? I bet a servant leader was not your first answer. But it’s okay; the term does not always scream ‘destined to be great’. Yet it offers a great chance to build a legacy that will keep shaping the company long after you are gone. Leaders who build legacies may not be that different from the…
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Why Servant Leadership Is Best For Work Engagement
If you are a leader, then you have probably had your fair share of struggles with work engagement. Keeping employees engaged is not easy. And I’ll tell you right now, a pizza party is not going to cut it. Some companies keep a rather low priority for work or employee engagement. The small HR teams, low-cost solutions to employee problems, and zero effort to challenge how things have always been are dead giveaways. Despite what people think, work engagement is not an HR issue; it’s a leadership issue. Why? The way you lead sets the attitude for the whole organization and, thus, employees. So, if you are the kind of…
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Finding Your Passion and Aligning it With Your Leadership Goals.
If someone had told me when I was younger that finding your passion is the key to leadership, I would have been skeptical. But not for any other reason than I thought about leadership differently back then. You can probably relate. I used to think that once you become a leader, that’s all you had to be. Your passions, values, and beliefs are replaced with what I imagined was a leadership bubble. You had to think, believe, and be passionate about what the role told you to be. I’m not sure if this is how other people viewed leadership, but when I became a leader, I realized it was wrong.…
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Serving Under Stress: What Volunteering in Ukraine Taught Me About Leadership and Relationships
Volunteering in a conflict zone was one of the biggest leadership and people skills tests I have ever undertaken. My experience in Ukraine, during the first few weeks of the current war, taught me a truckload about leadership and how immense stress can be channeled into a laser-focused desire to uplift and support others. My wife and I were traveling in Estonia when the first bombs were dropped on Kyiv. We quickly decided that we had the time, abilities, and responsibility to help out in any way we could. We signed on with an American crisis relief team that my wife’s family had former affiliations with. We started as team…
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Surviving a long-distance Relationship: A Guide For Men
If you are in a long-distance relationship, then I probably shouldn’t tell you that more than 35% of them fail. Yikes, right? Not really, though. There are a lot more statistics that should give you courage about your chances. More than that, statistics should never define how your long-distance relationship turns out. So, if this is your first time in such a relationship, take a breather and focus less on the numbers. Getting caught up in the statistics is one way to lose before you can win. As a man, you are going to experience the ups and downs of long-distance relationships. You’re going to wonder if she’s talking to…
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Building Trust During A Workplace Change: Guide For Modern Leaders
Building trust in any relationship can be tough and takes time, and it’s even worse in work relationships. Ever since the pandemic revealed leaders’ ‘true colors,’ many people have had way less trust in them. As a leader, you want your employees to trust you in important moments. Some people believe that trust is not at all necessary for professional relationships. However, having someone trust you as a leader cannot lead to harm. You will feel motivated to do what’s best for them and be the leader they think you are. In addition, studies have shown that people who trust their employers are less stressed, have more energy, and have…
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The Art of Balancing Employee Needs With Company Goals for Servant Leaders
Let’s dive into something that’s crucial but often a bit tricky to master – balancing employee needs with company goals. You’re a servant leader. That means you’re all about putting your team first, making sure they feel seen, appreciated, and catered to. It’s like being the ultimate host at a party, ensuring everyone’s having a great time. But here’s the catch – just like at any party, some folks might start pushing boundaries, and you don’t want the higher-ups thinking you’re just the “nice guy” who’s not focused on the company’s bigger picture. Being a servant leader is awesome, but it can sometimes lead to whispers behind your back –…
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Giving Your Husband the Respect He Needs to Thrive (Even When It Hurts)
The old adage goes “Women most need security, and men most need respect.” It’s an outdated and somewhat black-and-white statement in some ways. Nonetheless, I find it’s true in my marriage…at least that latter half. (I feel like my greatest need is someone to unload the dishwasher, but that’s another matter entirely.) I’m a pretty headstrong woman, and I can easily hop the line to domineering. I can sling sarcasm that goes too far. I’ve had to intentionally work on that because a lack of respect in our home is detrimental to my husband’s confidence and ability to lead, which has negative effects on everyone in the home. So…why is…


























