Tall, dark, and handsome, the strong silent type, and every other three-word phrase to describe the most attractive men you can think about. You’ve had a crush on at least one you can think of, right? It’s understandable.  If you are here, you are looking for answers on what it would be like to date that strong silent type you met who seems to be passing the vibes to you. Alternatively, you could be here because you have approached the strong silent type, and it did not go as expected. So you want to know what could have possibly gone wrong.  Spoiler: this blog does both. The strong, silent type…

“Do I like your friends?” He repeated the question to me. I did not need an answer after that. I mean, I had my answer when he hesitated. Plus, I could hear the lie building up in his voice. Was I okay with the fact that my partner did not like my friends? No! Should I have been? We broke up before I could figure that out. But it was not because he did not like my friends! Although sometimes that’s what it feels like you should do. I mean, The Spice Girls said it’s important for him to get with them. We can’t argue with The Spice Girls! But…

Having some time apart to do separate things is normal and healthy in relationships. But when his hobbies take over all your husband or boyfriend’s time, it’s easy to feel left out and separated from your loved one.  Sounds crazy, right? We get so worked up about someone else stealing our loved ones from us. People rarely consider the possibility of something other than another person stealing the attention of their spouse. But it happens more often than you would think. It’s normal to be drawn to the things you like, and the same goes for your man. However, sometimes you can get lost in your hobbies for one reason…

I can name at least one time when I have looked at a man and said, ‘I bet he’s having a midlife crisis.’ was probably wrong, as are many others when they talk about men going through this crisis. So, what kind of man goes through a midlife crisis? Better yet, is there any man who’s gone through it, or is it one big hoax men use to explain erratic behavior?  Some studies show that evidence for a midlife crisis does not exist. However, there is evidence of emotional turmoil among middle-aged people characterized by a strong desire for change. It can only be described as a crisis. So yes,…

So, you’re dating a recently divorced man—I guess the divorce part shouldn’t matter. But it does, no matter how much you try to ignore it. It’s okay though; it means you know what you are getting yourself into. Or at least, are ready to embrace it. Dating a recently divorced man should not be different. But it is. After all, divorce is one of those life-changing experiences. Nobody walks into a marriage hoping to get divorced, so it will affect those involved in one way or another. Worse, it may affect you even though you were never in the marriage to begin with. So, is there an art to dating…

If you have ever been in a relationship with a man, you have probably also asked yourself: Is he thinking about commitment? It’s normal to wonder if you are latching onto someone who sees you as a passing fling. And it’s not wrong to want commitment. In fact, wanting commitment is natural and healthy. Commitment gives you a sense of stability and security. In addition, it is a pathway to deeper emotional intimacy. When you commit, aligning your goals and values becomes easier. Plus, when you have a committed partner, you have someone to motivate you to be the best version of yourself.  Most of all, commitments give you a…

The other day, I was having a conversation with a friend about how his parents were going through a rough patch—let’s call them Mr. and Mrs. Smith. As it turns out, Mr. Smith lost his bedroom privileges because he was never willing to discuss money. At least, that’s what I got from the story. According to my friend, Mr. Smith was going through a tough financial crisis. He had made a bad investment, lost money, and kept silent about it until Mrs. Smith found out from someone else. Dramatic, I know! The thing is, Smith Junior was siding with Dad, saying that the lie did not warrant Mom’s reaction. He…