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His Hobbies Are Stealing Him; What Do I Do?
Having some time apart to do separate things is normal and healthy in relationships. But when his hobbies take over all your husband or boyfriend’s time, it’s easy to feel left out and separated from your loved one. Sounds crazy, right? We get so worked up about someone else stealing our loved ones from us. People rarely consider the possibility of something other than another person stealing the attention of their spouse. But it happens more often than you would think. It’s normal to be drawn to the things you like, and the same goes for your man. However, sometimes you can get lost in your hobbies for one reason…
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Is He Having A Midlife Crisis?
I can name at least one time when I have looked at a man and said, ‘I bet he’s having a midlife crisis.’ was probably wrong, as are many others when they talk about men going through this crisis. So, what kind of man goes through a midlife crisis? Better yet, is there any man who’s gone through it, or is it one big hoax men use to explain erratic behavior? Some studies show that evidence for a midlife crisis does not exist. However, there is evidence of emotional turmoil among middle-aged people characterized by a strong desire for change. It can only be described as a crisis. So yes,…
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Leading With Accountability: A Necessity For Great Leaders
I don’t think there will ever come a time when we won’t need more people in high authority leading with accountability. It’s necessary in roles as small as store managers and as big as national leaders. So, why do some leaders think they don’t need to be accountable? When you’re in a position of power, it might feel like you answer to nobody. After all, you worked hard to get there. So, why should you answer to anyone, especially those beneath you? But this isn’t the right mindset. Having no accountability can have terrible consequences for you and the business. You are human and prone to mistakes. If you can’t…
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The Dos And Don’ts of Resolving Conflict for Leaders
I always thought I would have to be a parent to be caught in the middle of two people fighting. It turns out that I just needed to be a manager to resolve conflicts. A leader has many roles and this is one of the harder ones. Whether you’re ready or not, the people you are in charge of are bound to have different opinions, ideas, principles, and plans. Sometimes, the differences can escalate, leading to conflict in the workplace. And don’t think it will only happen between two people. No, it could be three or more people. I’ve even encountered two or three groups of people in workplace conflict. …
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Guide To Dating A Recently Divorced Man
So, you’re dating a recently divorced man—I guess the divorce part shouldn’t matter. But it does, no matter how much you try to ignore it. It’s okay though; it means you know what you are getting yourself into. Or at least, are ready to embrace it. Dating a recently divorced man should not be different. But it is. After all, divorce is one of those life-changing experiences. Nobody walks into a marriage hoping to get divorced, so it will affect those involved in one way or another. Worse, it may affect you even though you were never in the marriage to begin with. So, is there an art to dating…
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Why Can’t I Just Make a Decision? These Simple Steps Are (Slowly) Changing My Indecisive Leadership Style.
Have you ever found yourself in one of those restaurants with a 20-page menu and felt completely overwhelmed? We all face a range of decisions every day, from what to have for breakfast to life-altering choices. For some people, making decisions is a breeze. But for others, like me, it’s a constant struggle. At least once a day, my wife says something to the tune of “It’s not life or death babe, it’s just a sandwich.” She’s right, and my inability to make quick decisions, even with silly things, sometimes irritates us both. While my lack of decision-making skills is frustrating sometimes, as it affects my leadership ability at work…
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How to Become A Strategic Leader
When you watch enough good movies about heroes pushed into a corner but coming out victorious because they had a good plan, you start to wonder how you, too, can become a strategic leader. I know I’ve pictured myself as Captain America a few times. I wondered if I could get the Avengers out of trouble with only a good plan. Am I worthy? As a good leader, you must have asked yourself the same. Whether new in management or a veteran, being a leader means your team or employees look for answers and strategies. They need you to be the guy who always has a plan. As an employee,…
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Is he Thinking About Commitment, or is it Just Me?
If you have ever been in a relationship with a man, you have probably also asked yourself: Is he thinking about commitment? It’s normal to wonder if you are latching onto someone who sees you as a passing fling. And it’s not wrong to want commitment. In fact, wanting commitment is natural and healthy. Commitment gives you a sense of stability and security. In addition, it is a pathway to deeper emotional intimacy. When you commit, aligning your goals and values becomes easier. Plus, when you have a committed partner, you have someone to motivate you to be the best version of yourself. Most of all, commitments give you a…
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Are You a Leader? You Need A Second in Command
I never thought I would embody the ‘it’s lonely at the top‘ stereotype. But it’s because I thought I would have no friends—I still did—so I thought it did not matter. That is until I realized I was alone in all aspects of leadership. I never thought I would need a second in command. You know that there are some problems other employees will never be able to understand. There are some challenges unique to leadership roles. Worst of all, they are problems you cannot share with the rest of the team because again…they are leadership challenges. With time, maintaining your energy can become challenging. Not only do all leadership…
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Travel as Education? How Travel Has Made Me a Better Husband and Leader
For the last four years, my wife and I have been gallivanting around the world as full-time digital nomads. We sold our home and all our belongings, got online jobs, and left the U.S. in 2020. Full-time travel has affected me in ways I never expected. It has reshaped my understanding of the world and developed my skills as a husband and leader. Cross-cultural travel is very eye-opening. It challenges you in every way—from trying to assimilate into different cultures to handling frustrating financial, situational, and social situations. I’m certainly a different man than when I left, and while I haven’t processed it all yet, here are a few things…
